I wore: Please Don’t Tell Dress and necklace, A&F leather tote, Kate Spade glitter sneakers. Photos by Yuval Sani.
The big news: My baby is a GIRL! Which made me extremely happy! I always dreamed of having a little girl!!! The moment I found out, I screamed and jumped and couldn’t believe that G-d was giving me such a big gift, a dream come true…
But as the days passed I realized I have an even bigger responsibility. My little girl is coming into a world where women are still being abused, and in many countries, second class citizens. A world that claims feminism is coming back, but publishes images of women as sexual objects non-stop, and a world where women enter their teens confused and focused solely on their body image and not building their minds… slowly fear settled in and I decided to write my girl a letter on the 5 things I want her to know:
1. Love Yourself: We hear this so much that we forget what it actually means. Loving yourself means to treat yourself with respect, to accept your body as it is and to give yourself the best of everything. It means you should never harm your body in any way, treating it as a temple and eating healthily. It also means you should never waste your time. Life is a little precious gift. The biggest hope I have for you, my baby, is to love yourself deeply, so you can love others and give the best to the world.
2. Dream big, but keep it real: My generation is a generation of dreamers. Everywhere I go I hear the phrase “Follow your dreams”. While this is a beautiful mantra, you can’t go following dreams without a realistic plan. Dreaming with no plan will bring you deep sadness. A big part of dreaming but keeping it real is being humble. Be humble and know when your dreams are crossing the line and becoming an obsession. Always be aware of when your dreams are not working and be flexible enough to take a new direction. Don’t stop dreaming, but know that dreams need planning, dedication, flexibility, courage and a very strong heart.
3. Be beautiful inside first: You are born beautiful… don’t let the world tell you otherwise. If your body doesn’t fit the mold of your era, don’t let that become an obsession, if it does fit the standard, don’t let that become an obsession either. Beauty is false, and can make you blind to the real essence of people. Don’t be confused by your looks or other people’s looks. Always see beyond both and you will find real beauty. Also, act beyond your looks and people will see your true beautiful self.
4. Your gender won’t define you: Don’t let any stereotype on your gender, religion or race define you. You will be a woman, Jewish, and Latin and these, or anything else you decide to add, won’t define your life. What will define your future are your actions. Don’t forget where you come from and respect your heritage, understand it fully, keep it close. The day will come when someone will try to define you or challenge your views, be proud of them. Always be proud of being a woman, be proud of being Jewish, be proud of being Latin.
5. You are mine, but you are not: The moment I found out I was pregnant I felt extremely jealous. I didn’t want to share you with anyone! After all, I have been sick, throwing up, and doing all the hard work! The truth is that although you are my first baby and you are a part of me, you are also free. I would love to keep you close to my soul forever protected, but in reality you are free to go as you like. I’m telling you this because if you believe in your freedom, no one and nothing will make you its prisoner. If I could leave you to be free, you should know that you are free of everyone and everything in the world.
Finally I can’t wait for you to be here! You have brought me happiness beyond anything I can explain, and you have brought me peace in a heart that was always restless. You are also part of my dream come true, since more than anything in life, I always longed to have a family, you are my gift.